Lumia Life Coach:
Chris Cherrie
I am an empathetic leader and advocate for gender and sexual minorities on a mission to end discrimination through the power of Sex & Relationship Coaching for Singles, Couples, and Couple+ Relationships.
We’re not taught how to be in a healthy relationship. We absorb what we learned growing up from our people of origin, and, if you’re like I was, your family’s outdated generational dial-up was downloaded into your subconscious and you have no idea what to do with it, or even that it’s affecting you at all (breaking news: it is) so you project those insecurities onto your partner(s), as they project back, like toddlers throwing balls in a McDonald’s playpen and then we sit and wonder why we can’t feel like Disney princesses in a co-dependant Back Street Boys ballad.
As we grow through school, dating, and work-life we just kinda figure it out along the way. We were thrown into the deep end when it comes to creating a healthy sex life or operating a relational business as a financial team.
Relationship Coaching for Couples is a strategic partnership where a couple+ seeks support to get unstuck, clarify goals, and identify obstacles in a safer space. As a team, the couple+ and coach co-create an accomplishment strategy to achieve desired results. The coaching process helps align the partners as a team that is working towards a common objective together, typically a better experience of their relationship.
To give you an idea here are some topics and skills that I work with my clients on:
Boundary Breaking, Betrayal, & Infidelity
Communication & Negotiation
Intimacy & Nurturance
Desire & Eroticism
Sex & Pleasure
Trust Connection Strategies
Self-Soothing Strategies
Conflict Navigation & Repair
Relational Emotional & Erotic Intelligence
Coming Out
Ethical Non-Monogamy, Open Relationships, & Threesomes
Dating, Marriage, Divorce
Empathy & Compassion
Kink & Fetish
Soft Skills & Cognitive Tools
A decade ago my journey into coaching began as a pleasure educator at a Queer-Feminist Sex Shop in West Hollywood and Group Counsellor for Trans & Queer youth at the LA LGBT Center.
Growing up in Toronto with the shame and confusion of being pansexual and fumbling through rough relationships and marriage mistakes has given me the life experience to show up as the husband I am proud to be today.
I’ve used science-based coaching to help 200+ 2SLGBTQQIA+ poly and kinky folx find freedom in their dream relationships by inviting them to be themselves and design the values-influenced life and relationships of their dreams — regardless of what they’re into.
I work with couple+ and 1:1 clients on a variety of areas within relationships as well as intersections of gender and identity through a custom non-judgemental, intersectional, trauma-informed lens honouring lived experience.
Lexa K. (She/Her)
I’ve been in therapy and read many self-help books and I found Chris’ approach truly magnetic.
He worked with my husband and I on our communication/conflict styles and attachment styles. As a pan woman, it was invaluable having a non-judgemental space with someone who could genuinely relate and connect.
Marco S. (They/He)
Together Chris and I strategized on a plan for me to feel confident and start dating again as a newcomer. I was insecure as a more effeminate straight man. I now realize that I am my own value-maker, I decide how well I am doing based on the metrics that I choose to measure my own worth. Chris is very fun to work with, I highly recommend to anyone who needs sex pos kink support.
Akshay L. (He/Him)
Chris my man!! I am so grateful for you. I am finally confident as an out bi man. Not all days are smooth but you’ve given me tools to deal during the downs! You are an expert in gender all things sex. You knew exactly where I was coming from and I never felt dumb asking questions about how to pleasure a guy :) Thank you.
Jody T. (She/Her)
You create a safe space where I can explore my ideas, discover my obstacles, and get motivated for my future.
You are calm, patient, and knowledgeable. Your presence is always open and accepting which creates a non-judgemental space for our sessions together. Your resources and tools are always on point and presented with grace and ease, allowing me to utilize what works best and most authentically for me. Most importantly, your belief in me gives me the empowerment I need to take my next step.
Dev H. (He/Him)
Having the opportunity to be coached by Chris, is such an incredible experience. Chris has an amazing gift specifically in holding space and making one feel heard, seen, and understood.
We tackled many different areas but specifically in the lane of relationships I felt like Chris was an invaluable well-spring of experience, reflection, and reframing. From family, to romantic, and even platonic relationships, he was able to help me navigate my way to some incredible “Aha!” moments and clarity. In a particularly challenging area of my life, Chris was able to see and understand my lens as a HIV Positive-Undetecable gay man. He held space and made me feel validated and understood through discussions where this part of my identity interacted with particularly difficult portions of my experiences.
I feel beyond privileged to call him my peer, am ineffably grateful for the knowledge, time, and experience he has shared with me, and I absolutely cannot wait to see the incredible things he will continue to do.