Lumia Life Coach:
Rena Martine
Have you ever felt shame when it comes to your body, your sexuality, or your relationships?
Maybe you have sexual fantasies you’d never dream of saying out loud… Or you’re embarrassed about the number (or lack thereof) of sexual partners you’ve had. Maybe you have trouble opening up to your partner… Or you’re dealing with feelings of abandonment after a breakup.
Maybe you feel insecure about (or disconnected from) your body… Or you have trouble allowing yourself to be vulnerable when it comes to dating. Maybe you’re carrying the weight of trauma from your childhood or a past relationship… Or you simply feel like there’s got to be more to life than what you’re currently experiencing.
There are so many ways shame manifests itself in our relationships, both with others and with ourselves. The truth is, women’s pleasure has been a taboo topic in our society for thousands of years. And while we’ve made incredible progress, unfortunately most of us have internalized those narratives.
We carry a collective sense of shame that leads many women to fear or avoid intimacy altogether. That shame can show up as an inability to express yourself sexually, or having a negative body image, being unable to be emotionally vulnerable in a relationship, or simply feeling like there’s a piece of you missing. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
SHAMELESS is an eight-week coaching program designed to give you the tools and confidence you need to feel fully empowered — and well, shameless — in the bedroom and beyond.
Rena Martine was a Los Angeles County Deputy District Attorney for 14 years, where she specialized in sex crimes, child abuse and domestic violence cases. She continues to serve women today as an intimacy coach, educator, TEDx speaker and author, with a mission to help women love their bodies, experience deep intimacy and have great sex, shame-free.
"When you work with Rena, get ready to have the ground move under you. She manages to help you uncover the things that hold you back from the intimacy and expansion you want to experience, both personally and with your partner. It's NOT easy work. It requires self reflection, re-framing damaging habits, and practice reinforcing new habits to help sustain change. This is the work that every woman deserves. I wish this work was mandatory while we were growing up." -Erika B.
"I came to Rena questioning whether I wanted to stay in my marriage. My husband and I were going to weekly couples therapy, but sex and affection was a block I couldn't push through because of sexual abuse I'd suffered as a child. I had no idea what I wanted or how to even begin talking about sex. I couldn't enjoy oral sex (or even long hugs, for that matter). Rena gave me permission to change, and I did. I no longer feel like my sexuality was robbed from me as a child. I don't see sex as a wife's duty anymore; it's something I want and know how to ask for. My husband and I are having the best sex of my life without any limits or insecurities. We hug every day. For the first time in my life, I feel true intimacy. Thank you, Rena, for saving my marriage." -Kelly K.